Communication Styles Parents and Children: When communicating and negotiating, every parent has a different style. There is a hard bargainer, collaborator, conflict avoider, and acoomodator. This theory appears motivated directly by the expert observations of the behavior of parents towards their children. There was a loud, always listen and work together, happy to avoid conflict, or even always follow the will of the child. Actually, each style has advantages and disadvantages of each. Here’s the explanation:
1. Hard Bargainer
Characteristics:
* Type of hardware. If you have opinions and desires, he will defend vigorously.
* Forcing the will because of all the rules at home that he should make.
* Feeling if pendapatnyalah the most correct, most can manage.
* It’s hard to listen to other people’s opinions especially from children. If not listen, he would ask for good reason from the child.
* Nice to threaten and punish.
The positive side:
* The decision, whether it is instruction or rule can be made with a quick, decisive, and effective.
* The rules in the home can be enforced properly.
* Can trigger a child to train the pattern of thinking. Like asking a reason why he is doing something, the child will think hard to remember his parents express their opinions is difficult to be convinced. If he used to think looking for logical reasons, then he’ll get used to creative thinking. Later, when negotiating, the child can reliably menajdi negotiator because he was trained to maintain pedapatnya with logical reasons. Read more…
